May is Mental Health Awareness Month! #morethanenough

It’s Mental Health Awareness Month! The #morethanenough campaign is going strong with the help of NAMI (National Alliance of Mental Illness) and with today’s social climate, we can’t help but think this is a great reminder for all of us.

Here at Personal Balance Counseling, we know you matter and recognize you are #morethanenough even when you don’t believe it. We often find low self-esteem and beliefs like “I’m unlovable” and “I’m unworthy of happiness” stem from the world around us. We’re here to remind you that you can’t believe everything you think!

Low self-esteem, often resulting from negative core beliefs, can make anxiety worse, exacerbate moods, and lead to a sense of hopelessness and unhappiness; directly affecting your mental health.

Negative core beliefs are rigid beliefs a person holds over time that influence how they view the world and themselves and typically have very little evidence to support themselves. Ultimately, negative core beliefs aren’t true! These beliefs often develop through adverse childhood experiences, invalidation from adults, and unhelpful thinking patterns. Think TRAUMA! Trauma can impact a person in several ways including aiding in the development of negative core beliefs.

When we are living our life with low self-esteem and negative core beliefs, we may see the world as depressing and waiting for “the other shoe to drop,” we may engage in self sabotaging behaviors, and we might act out our anxiety.

Who wants to live like that?! Truthfully, nobody! Unfortunately, challenging a negative core belief is difficult and uncomfortable. We have to remind ourselves every day that we can’t always believe what we think and we are #morethanenough.

Look forward to our next post on Challenging a Negative Core Belief!

Personal Balance Counseling offers a comfortable therapeutic experience for those seeking balance in their everyday lives. We can help you overcome low self-esteem, feelings of hopelessness, and beliefs that you are not worthy of happiness. Reach out to us at or use our Contact us page!

Communication is Key

How often have you wondered what someone else was thinking? Do you ever think someone hasn’t heard what you said? Were they hearing you, but not really listening? Are you communicating what you want and what you need?

The truth is, we are not mind readers, we don’t know if people heard us, and sometimes, (alright fine, most times) we don’t say what we mean despite our best intentions.

What’s the Point

You come to counseling sessions week after week and talk, talk, talk. Some weeks are better than others, but nothing seems to be changing. You’re tired, you don’t want to come, and you think “I’m wasting my money, time, and energy on this.” You call your therapist and inform him or her that you’ve decided to try something different because you just don’t get the ‘point’ of therapy.

Our Top 10 Anxiety Busters

Anxiety: a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome; excessive uneasiness and apprehension, may be accompanied by compulsive behavior or panic attacks.

Anxiety can be debilitating. It looks different for everyone. Here’s our top ten tips for calming your nerves and getting through it:

1. Take a deep breath and recognize where the anxiety is coming from. We can’t face or deal with our anxiety if we don’t know where it’s coming from. Stop and take deep breaths to calm yourself down so you can locate the anxiety.

The Uphill Battle of Mental Illness

More than several times, I’ve had people walk into my office and ask me why this is happening to their brother, sister, daughter, uncle, mother, again when they have had a good week/month/year.

Mental health is a constant uphill battle. People are allowed to have good days mixed in with their bad day.  Those individuals battling mental health issues work incredibly hard to hang on to good days. However, it is difficult for our loved ones to understand the harsh realities of constantly struggling with mood disorders and mental illness.

Perspective, Why is it so important?

Dr. Wayne Dyer once said, “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Let’s be honest, he said this many times over because IT’S TRUE!

How often have you thought about a situation and become upset, depressed, angered, or hurt by this?  While some people are rather good at establishing perspective and can recognize the possibility that other truths may exist, others are not so good.